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Saturday, 28 November 2009

  • Just a thought

    I took my oldest daughter out for dinner this Wednesday, and then on to see the opening night of my youngest daughter's play.

    We were early and  Legshaver took me on a bit of a tour showing me things about her school .It was obvious that she was proud. She was proud of her school.

    And that made me proud. And happy. And oh so relieved.

    Cuddlebug has been in a POSITIVE frenzy since September when the auditions for this musical started.She got a part, not a big one, but she was part of the company.And she was thrilled.

    I don't think I could have taken the smile off her pretty face with a jackhammer.

    The play was fun, Cuddlebug's makeup and hair took a little getting used to when we saw her in the hall on the way to wardrobe. She was wired and smiling ear to ear. Legshaver told me confidentially that she is really proud of her little sister.

    I am too. I'm proud of both of them.

    At the website I used to write at, there were a lot of mothers mostly, but parents, who had absolute horror stories to tell about their kids. How drugs had destroyed the children they once knew and loved.Crack cocaine and Crystal Meth had ruined the kids lives, and the parents lives too. I remember one mother writing about how her daughter was living under a bridge.They had placed the daughter in rehab 3 times and the kid, who was 15 kept going back to the drugs. She had finally had to kick her out of the house because the kid was stealing so much in order to buy drugs.

    It was heartbreaking. These were not terrible parents. They loved their kids and did their best to raise them correctly.But somewhere along the line the kids had a decision to make, and they made the wrong choice.The consequences of their decision are simply horrible to contemplate.These parents know true despair.

    I am lucky that, so far, my kids have made good decisions.

  • Hitching Canada pt 3

    This guy had crossed over into Canada at Sault Ste Marie . I don't remember if he told us what his reason for coming was, I do remember thinking after less than 5 minutes with the guy that we had made a mistake.

    We basically let him talk, he seemed to like the sound of his own voice and he talked a lot.. The problem came when he started telling us about his days in the Navy and how he and his buddies would "act homo" to shock the civilians when they went into a port on leave. During the course of this story he put his hand on Bruce's knee. We nervously laughed at his story while Bruce removed the hand from his knee.

    He repeated part of his story and this time put his hand on Bruce's thigh, his other hand left the wheel and moved the little dog in tighter to his crotch.Bruce removed his hand again and said "we get the picture, you don't have to keep touching me." I had my hand on the door ready to open it.

    The guy gave a sigh and reached forward and felt under the seat.When he straightened up he had a gun in his hand.It was just like the gun Clint Eastwood used in Dirty Harry. A .357 Magnum, and believe me when he pointed it at us it looked as big as a fucking cannon.I said "WHOA!" I was terrified, absolutely terrified. He had a good grip on it, I know for a fact because I couldn't take my eyes off that gun in his hand. I'm Canadian, we don't have handguns up here outside of police and shooting clubs, this was the first pistol I had ever seen.

    He pulled over onto the shoulder and I heaved against the door, Bruce was right behind me. We took off into the woods. I don't think either of us has ever run so hard or so fast. I kept listening for the gunshot that I was sure would happen. It didn't. He didn't try to follow us either. We stayed hidden as we heard a door slam, then another, then he tore off down the road.

    Bruce and I both vomited. We couldn't stop shaking but it finally ceased and when we were calm we cautiously made our way out of the trees back to the highway. The truck was nowhere in sight but our packs had been dumped on the roads shoulder. At least he wasn't a thief.

    We were in the middle of nowhere and any cars that came along looked startled to see us there. No one picked us up. Hours passed and we collected ourselves and got back to normal. Finally we flagged down a bus that was heading for Kenora. It cost us 17 bucks but we felt safe.

    We pulled into Kenora as the sun was rising. Bruce and I needed food so we made our way to a diner we saw.The food was amazing and I made my way to the restroom. Inside were three little boys. The two bigger ones were trying to lift the littlest one so he could pee. I lifted the little guy up and his brothers undid his pants. Then when he was done I carried him over and held him up while he washed his hands, then I lifted the other two so they could wash as well.. As I set them down I realized their dad was watching me.He thanked me for helping his sons and we started talking as we made our way back to our tables. I met his wife and introduced Bruce.

    They offered us a ride to Regina, the capital of Sascatchewan. Out of Ontario, across Manitoba , and halfway across Sascatchewan....what a great ride. We kept the boys entertained in their VW bus, they were thankful to have the boys distracted by us. Turns out he had been a correspondent during the Viet Nam war and he told us some incredible tales. We hardly saw Manitoba we were so engrossed in his stories. I did see the mint though, where they make all our money.

    It was with real regret that we said goodbye to those fine folks. We exchanged address's and I got a Christmas card from them for about ten years. Nice people.They were exactly what we needed after our run in with the gun guy.

    Bruce and I found a youth hostel and got a room there. We went out for a beer and soon realized that every hooker in Regina worked across the street from the youth hostel. They were funny to watch. In the morning we set out again . Rides were hard to come by and the flatness of the prairie was depressing because when a car or truck didn't pick us up we could watch them for the next 20 miles or so. We finally got a lift to Swift Current and got a trailer at the youth hostel there.We sat around a campfire with other travelers and shared stories.It was a great night. There was a young couple hitching together, the girl had told us he was just a neighbour of hers and that there was nothing going on between them. The guy told us she was his girlfriend. Wishful thinking on his part. He kept us entertained by trying to show us she was his.He'd put his arm around her, and she would slink out from under it. We heard them fighting after we went to bed. It was funny.

    In the morning we got a ride into Alberta.

Friday, 27 November 2009

  • Hitchhiking Canada,pt2

    There are certain rules of the road when you are thumbing.At least there were in my time.I learned these rather the hard way when I thumbed up to my cottage when I was 14. If there is a line of people hitching, the front of the line goes first, even if they stop for YOU. I took a ride that time, and the guy at the front of the line caught up to me later down the road.

    He was a veteran hitcher, he smacked me around a bit, nothing too serious, but he got his point across.

    So Bruce and I left my dad and joined the line. As I said in my last post, hitching was common back then. You couldn't actually thumb on the highways, but the ramps to them often had several people using their thumb to get somewhere.

    It took us about an hour to finally get to the front and get a ride.Oh and what a ride it was.Remember when milk was delivered to your house? Our house had a built in milk chute.The dairys would deliver milk right to your home, hence all the "pregnant by the milk man "jokes from that time.

    The guy that stopped for us had converted an old milk truck.It was so much better than a van, you could stand right up in it for one thing.He had a row of upholstered seats along the sides and a mattress in the middle.The tunes were blaring and he shouted at us to throw our packs in the back and get in. We did. He introduced himself as Hans and after we told him our names and had pulled onto the highway he said..."lift up the seats , I pick up everyone and we party!" Lifting up the seats revealed that each one was a cooler filled with beer. Eight seats, eight coolers filled with ice and beer. Hans cackled with glee when he saw our reaction.

    So we started drinking, toasting ourselves for finally beginning our trip.Hans was more of a pot smoker than a drinker, I guess since he was driving, but we were soon all feeling extremely happy.True to his word he looked at every on ramp and if someone was hitching he pulled over on the highway and yelled for them to come on. It seemed like in no time at all there were ten of us and various articles of luggage cruising up Highway 400 having a beer and digging the tunes. Hans himself was having a blast.

    He was headed to Parry Sound which was the way we were going so Bruce and I rode with him for about three hours.Some of the others got off where 400 turns westward but some stayed.When we reached Parry Sound, believe me, we were sorry to say goodbye to Hans. We were also quite drunk. We kept on to a place called Pointe Au Baril and decided that a motel room was in order instead of using our tent and camping.

    If you have never seen this part of Ontario, well let me tell you, it is beautiful.It isn't much farther north than my cottage, but it is very different.Georgian Bay is big, and the shores are rocky in a picturesque kind of way.The trees tend to be more coniferous than deciduous , though there are plenty of those too.Blue water, rocky shores and giant pine trees.

    A very pretty sight.

    Bruce and I checked into a motel, it had blatantly uneven curtains. I pulled out my tape recorder and put on some tunes.There were no ipods or walkmans back then, so the tape recorder and a bunch of cassettes came with us, and a lot of batteries too. We listened to tunes and rehashed the day. It was all good.

    We set out the next morning and were told by some other hitchers to make sure we didn't get caught around Wawa. "take a ride past it, or don't take the ride" we were told. Apparently some hitcher had murdered a family around Wawa and no one would pick you up there. It was just an urban legend , pure horseshit, but we had been told the same thing by a guy on the 400 ramp. We didn't want to be stuck on the side of the road, it gets pretty desolate near Wawa.

    An older American guy driving a pickup stopped for us.He had a daschund in his lap, you know , one of those little weiner dogs.We threw our packs in the back and squeezed into the cab with him. As we passed a lot of pine trees and gravel pits he told us how he had been married 5 times and how in his Will it was stated..."To each of my wives I leave a pair of my pants, they always wanted to wear them and now's their chance." I have never forgotten those words, or that man.

    He pulled a .357 Magnum on us.

Tuesday, 24 November 2009

  • Hitchhiking Across Canada pt.1

    I have often felt that I was born 10 years too late, the main reason for this is because I was only 10 years old when Woodstock took place. I have seen the movie of that wonderful event probably 30 times, and it STILL bugs me that I was too young to be there. Yeah yeah, I've heard all the horror stories about it too.But I will regret not being there til the day I die.

    But, being born when I was enabled me to catch the tail end of things...good things, before society went all to hell.

    Want an example? I was allowed to walk to school and back...alone,all kids were, male and female. To play outside without being restricted to just my own yard. Any pedophiles during my childhood were too scared of being found out.Touch a kid or snatch a kid, and it was certain death.Not like it is today.

    Another example was hitchhiking. I used to hitchhike all the time. Lots of people did.It was a cheap and interesting way to travel.Sure there were risks, even back then, but it was generally considered safe.

    When my family moved when I was 9, my parents joined a bridge club to meet new people.One of the couples in the club had a son close to my age named Bruce, and Bruce and I became best friends.He shared a love of music much like my own. Rock and Roll baby!! The louder the better.While we both knew the Beatles inside and out they were too soft for our tastes. The Who, Deep Purple, David Bowie....they belonged to us. The Beatles belonged to our older siblings.

    My parents house had two basements, an upper and lower basement.In our lower basement we had a slate pool table and a ping pong table. It was great because you could hear if anyone was coming because of creaking floorboards....but people upstairs couldn't hear you. I spent a lot of time teaching girlfriends to play pool if you get my drift...
    But before that, Bruce and I would crank the tunes, shoot pool and play a wicked air guitar on our pool cues.We bothered no one.
    And somewhere along the way, we decided that we should hitchhike out West.I think he was 14 and I was 15 when we came up with this brainstorm. I don't really know why, but it took root. That idea stayed with us and began to grow. We got our first job together so we could save money for our trip, and we did save it. We checked out maps, read about the west, and really became consumed by it to be honest.All the while we were rocking to the tunes and shooting pool.I remember getting David Bowie's live album "Bowie Live at the Tower Philadelphia", and after that we became live album die hards. No more studio stuff for us.Bruce bought Deep Purple's "Made in Japan"....we were in heaven.

    Eventually we told our parents of our plans. Naturally mine shot down anything I had to say on the matter, just as they did on everything I had to say. Bruce's folks said he was too young.Well, time moved on like it always does, and though we got girlfriends, went to different schools, and found our musical tastes expanding, we still didn't give up the dream of our trip.

    In May of 1977 I turned 18 and my parents couldn't stop me. I had my own money and I was going.Bruce's folks agreed to let him go, even though he was still a minor. I had a devoted girlfriend at the time. We were "in love", in that desperately, fiercely passionate way that only teenagers can feel.We had surrendered our virginities to each other and had been together for quite a while.She didn't want me to go, but she knew it was going to happen....the sex was incredible.

    Plans were made, hell, Bruce and I had planned everything , we had been planning for years, we were ready for anything, or so we thought. I cut my hair which was long , because I figured more people would be likely to pick us up if I looked more "presentable". The day came, the tearful goodbyes were made to the girlfriends and to my surprise my dad offered to drive us to the ramp of Highway 400 so we could start out. We took it.

    I'll never forget my dad's last words to me as I got out of the car with my backpack. I was setting off across Canada, traveling by thumb, about to encounter many strangers and many things that I had never witnessed before....My dad said to me...."Thom, do you have enough handkerchiefs?"

    I had never owned a handkerchief in my life.



Monday, 23 November 2009

  • The Simple Pleasures in Life

    I'm a man, and I like things the way I like them. I am not hard to please, I am a fairly simple...some would say simple minded, kind of guy. I like beer, no muss no fuss. I like whiskey straight, not a whiskey sour, or with any mix of any kind.

    When I make a sandwich it has two things in it. Meat and Miracle Whip. Or Miracle Whip and Peanut Butter.Occasionally I get a craving for a dill pickle.

    Simple right?

    I did my time in the loony bin commonly called marriage. I gave it my best shot, and if it's all the same to you, I don't think I'll ever be venturing down that road again. It's too damned complicated. Other people, especially females, really screw up my simple pleasures.This is why I happily live alone. Sea Hag did it all the time. She probably felt she was entitled to torture me because I had cruelly weighted down her left hand with the huge rock in the eighteen carat gold ring I gave her.Mean bastard that I am.

    Now it seems that my daughter has decided to take her mother's place in the 'let's bug Bricker' game of life.

    I had a full carton of milk, and a very large jar of pickles. I went to the store and bought bread and some really nice looking sliced roast beef for sandwiches. A hasty glance in the fridge had confirmed that I didn't need Miracle Whip as I saw two of the distinctive blue lids on the shelf.So I breezed past the Miracle Whip, ignored the milk, and smiled triumphantly as I passed by the pickles.

    I was all set, and eagerly anticipating my upcoming sandwich, tall glass of cold milk, and a few Dill Pickles on the side.

    One of life's simple pleasures.I was drooling in anticipation, I could hardly wait.

    I hurriedly drove home. Went to the counter, laid out the bread, opened the beef, got a knife ready to spread that gorgeous 'tangy zip' Miracle Whip. I reached into the fridge and discovered...the milk carton was empty, the pickle jar now contained only brine, and both of the Miracle Whip containers had nothing but minute scrapings left in them.

    Now I know what you're thinking, "Brick you had too many beers , emptied them all yourself and forgot". Nope, not a hope in hell.

    It was Cuddlebug.

    I swear, next time I see a steamer bound for Bangkok, that kid is on it.

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